For many people the marriage or romantic partnership relationship is the most intimate in their adult lives, offering the possibility of deep satisfaction, connection, and support, but also the possibility of deep vulnerability, misunderstanding, and wounding.
Individuals do not come into their intimate relationships in a vacuum. Every individual brings with them a context and set of assumptions about the nature of relationships, partnership, and intimacy which may or may not be completely understood by themselves or the their partner. Often the messages sent by one and received by the other become garbled because of these different assumptions, like a game of emotional “telephone”. Decoding and understanding one’s own assumptions, fears and desires, as well as those of one’s partner, can help set the stage for better understanding, greater intimacy, and more mutual decision-making and support.
Couples therapy is rooted in the premise that the challenges of a romantic relationship are best addressed within the contexts and interactions of the relationship itself. I work with couples to identify and deal with both immediate and more long-term challenges, and to get at and address the roots of those challenges so that they do not forever reassert themselves as powerfully as they have been, and when they do reassert themselves, to give couples the tools, insight, and understanding to deal with such challenges more effectively together.